It's Not Personal

It's Not Personal

Why do we take what others think, say or do so personally? What is it about us and our belief system that interprets someone else’s actions (or inactions) as a judgement about us? When the boss rolls their eyes, we can see that they are discounting what is being said, yet when we take it personally, we may feel that WE have been discounted, not just the information we are sharing…

Hiding from Ourselves

Hiding from Ourselves

Why do we get so upset when an old painful inner-story or outer-experience pops up again in our lives? We often feel that we have already ‘dealt with it’ and we don’t understand why it keeps coming up over and over again…

There Is Nothing Wrong with Us

There Is Nothing Wrong with Us

What is it that has us think there is something wrong or bad about us the way we are? Why are we constantly needing to justify or prove our worth to ourselves and others? We think we aren’t OK until we lose the weight, get the promotion, have the child, or get the grade…

Emotions Are Our Friends

Emotions Are Our Friends

Do you believe that our emotions are a problem? Perhaps you learned to shove them down, hide them, fake them, numb them out, rise above them or ignore them.

Many of us learned that ‘only babies cry’, ‘it's time to man up’, ‘Christians don't get angry’, ‘you'll get something to cry about if you keep it up......

How Feelings Reveal Our Beliefs

How Feelings Reveal Our Beliefs

Why is it so hard  to recognize our limiting beliefs while they are in play? What is it that keeps them hidden from our consciousness?

Our ego, which is ultimately trying to protect us from pain, will defend our beliefs as sacred truths that we have to be right about...

Our Best Inner-Guidance System

Our Best Inner-Guidance System

What voices do you listen to inside of yourself? Do you find there are many different ones, or one main one that dominates your thinking? Do you find yourself listening to that voice(s) even when you would like things to be quiet inside?

Setting Healthy Limits

Setting Healthy Limits

What is it that keeps us from setting healthy limits and boundaries with others? Is it that we don’t know when someone has crossed the line…

No Need to Fix It

No Need to Fix It

What is it that has us feel that we need to be the ‘fixer’ for others? What makes it so hard for us to just let others have their own experience, even if it looks like they may fall apart…

Releasing Ourselves from Abuse

Releasing Ourselves from Abuse

How do we step out of the cycle of being the victim of someone else's pain? In small and subtle ways, most of us still allow others to be abusive with us in their words or deeds. Even if we have ended or limited a painful relationship with these people, we may still feel they can hurt us in some way…

Beliefs That Limit Our Pleasure

Beliefs That Limit Our Pleasure

How do our beliefs about receiving keep the pleasure out of our lives? Most of us learned that we need to delay our gratification. Vegetables before dessert. Homework before play. Do what they say and we'll get what we want. Our parents negotiated with us in endless ways around the belief that we have to 'pay' for our pleasure.

Pleasure is an Inside Job

Pleasure is an Inside Job

Why is it so few of us enjoy pleasure in our lives? Perhaps it has something to do what we think pleasure is and where it comes from. Many of us think pleasure is just the opposite of pain so we measure our level of pleasure by how much pain we are dealing with…

Finding Our Purpose

Finding Our Purpose

What is our purpose and how do we know if we are fulfilling it? Our purpose is defined here as the impact that each person has on people and the world we live in…