There’s a moment when someone finally really sees you. Their eyes soften. Their attention lands fully on you. You feel it in your body—like a long-held breath finally releases.

And then... you start talking.
And talking.
And talking.

You know you’re going on a little too long. Part of you is watching it happen. But you can’t stop.

When someone finally offers you their genuine, positive attention, something old gets stirred. You feel seen… and suddenly, a floodgate opens.

This isn’t about being dramatic. This is about survival.

If you didn’t get the emotional presence, safety, or interest you needed earlier in life, your nervous system learned to grab what it could, when it could. Now, when someone finally listens—truly listens—it feels like you need to give them everything:
The gory past. The chaotic present. The hopeful (or terrifying) future.
All of it, every detail, or else… they might stop listening.

Somewhere deep inside, there's a belief:

“If I don’t get it all out right now, I’ll never get another chance.”

This urgency isn’t you being too much. It’s your nervous system saying:

“This might be my only shot at being understood.”

And here’s the thing: We’ve never been shown how to release this backlog safely.
We weren’t taught how to let it come out gently, over time, in a way that doesn’t overwhelm us—or others.

So instead, it spills. All at once. Fast, messy, and full-force.

Here’s what I want you to know: You’re not too much. You were just never given enough.
Enough space. Enough time. Enough attuned attention to go at your own pace.

Now that you’re aware, you can shift how you hold this.

Try this:

  • Before sharing, place a hand on your heart and ask:
    “What’s the part of me that needs to be heard right now?”

  • Let it speak—but give it boundaries. 5 minutes. One story. One memory.

  • Then pause. Check in. “Do I feel more seen? Or just more exposed?”

  • If you're with someone safe, say aloud:
    “I feel like I could talk forever. I’m realizing that’s a younger part of me who’s just excited to be seen. Thank you for really listening.”

This gives your system a container. And containers help us feel safe.

When we’ve spent a lifetime starved for attention, it makes sense that we’d want to feast when it finally comes.

But now, you get to be the one who regulates the flow.

You’re allowed to pause. To go slowly.
To say just enough—and trust that the next moment will hold space, too.

Your story is sacred.
You don’t need to spill it all at once to be worthy of being heard.

Are you ready to fully listen to You today? 🌸