Our Wants are Innocent

Our Wants are Innocent

What if what we wanted had nothing to do with anyone else? We live on a planet with 7 billion people so that concept may be hard to understand especially when we are programmed to believe that what we want comes from others. Think of it this way, what if no one needed to do anything or be any other way for us to want what we want? 

The Limits of Being Right

The Limits of Being Right

What is the point of being right? Do we think it makes us the ‘better’ person, justifies our actions, or gives us the right to take over or make someone wrong…

Looking Good Doesn't Work

Looking Good Doesn't Work

Why do we want to look good in the eyes of others? Is there some belief we learned that says if we look good, then we’ll get what we want? Perhaps we learned that looking good means we are good enough to get the approval, love, acceptance and/ or validation that we seek…

Feeling Good All The Time

Feeling Good All The Time

Do you believe we can choose to feel good in any moment? Most of us don't. We have been taught to respond to what’s right in front of us and feel the feelings that go with that experience. If the experience is something we want, we feel good. If its something we don't want, we feel bad....

Having Your Dream

Having Your Dream

Do you believe that you can fulfill your dreams? Is it OK that you have a certain dream? Is the dream 'too big' for you to imagine it actually happening? Is there a dream from long ago still alive within you....

Getting the Love We Want

Getting the Love We Want

Where do we believe love comes from? Does it come from others when we are 'loveable' enough? Is it something that comes from God? Most of us crave it, seek it, and spend our lives hoping to get enough of it. We write songs and poetry expressing our love towards what makes us feel lovable, loved, and loving.

Worry Is Useless

Worry Is Useless

Do you believe that worrying helps? That it makes a difference in what happens to us or those we care about? Perhaps you learned that worrying was a sign of caring, love or loyalty? Maybe you learned that worrying is like praying... the more you do it, the better the odds of a good outcome?

Taking Our Power with Us

Taking Our Power with Us

Why do we often feel we have no power when we leave a person, job or situation? When we feel the leave-taking isn’t of our own making, we can tell ourselves and others how we were no longer wanted, made wrong in our efforts, taken advantage of, misunderstood or otherwise rejected…

Hoping Others Will Change?

Hoping Others Will Change?

Do you believe that others will change in ways that will make you feel better? Do you hold out hope, even when the other person's behavior isn't fundamentally different? Perhaps you look for the tiniest shred of evidence that something has changed, and then hang onto that for days, weeks, months or even years?

Emotions are Helpful Messengers

Emotions are Helpful Messengers

Why is it that so many of us are uncomfortable feeling our emotions? We distract ourselves, focus our energy on other people’s business, or numb ourselves with food, substances, work or television to stay out of feeling what is going on inside of us…

Negative Emotions Give Us Guidance

Negative Emotions Give Us Guidance

Why is it that some situations trigger such BIG negative emotions – even when the situation doesn’t warrant it? It’s like an enormous pool of energy gets tapped when a small hurt happens in our lives. We think we have gotten past it or resolved situations that had us feel scared, angry or hurt, and yet we still feel these big reactions with certain situations or people…

When Responsibility Feels Heavy

When Responsibility Feels Heavy

What beliefs do you hold around 'responsibility'? Does responsibility mean duty and obligation? Are only 'adults' responsible? Is responsibility a burden? An honor? Are we only honorable when we take responsibility? Do you feel satisfaction after doing something 'responsible’? Does it make you a good person when you 'take responsibility' for others?