Acknowledgement Works!

Acknowledgement Works!

How do we keep from getting defensive or shutting down when others are reacting or acting badly? Some of us get embarrassed and feel the other person’s behavior is a direct reflection on us. We fear for our own reputation/credibility by association.

Limiting Beliefs are Not the Truth

Limiting Beliefs are Not the Truth

Why do we defend our beliefs so strongly even when they don’t serve us? If we look through history, we can see that many, many people defended their viewpoint – even to the death. Why do we do this?

Our Focus Matters

Our Focus Matters

If beliefs are just thoughts we keep thinking until they become true for us, we could create a belief about anything we want—right? Then why do we keep thinking thoughts about what we DON'T want…

How Do We Stop 'Shoulding' Ourselves?

How Do We Stop 'Shoulding' Ourselves?

Why do we use the word should in our language? The dictionary definition of should is “used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions.” We use the word should in our daily lives to make ourselves and others wrong about how we feel, what we want, and how we see the world…

Only You Can Make Yourself Wrong

Only You Can Make Yourself Wrong

What is it that has us determine who is right or wrong? Is it a set of cultural norms that we all agree to like ‘the golden rule’? Who or what gets to decide what is right for us or what is wrong with others? What if our fixed ideas of right and wrong keep us stuck in polarized thinking that limits our potential and joy...

Goal Achievement as an Inside Job

Goal Achievement as an Inside Job

It is so energizing to watch my clients set and achieve their ‘inner goals’ and watch their outer world significantly improve. Most of us set goals that are outwardly focused. We consider that if things are different/better/deeper/faster in our outer world then we will feel better on the inside...

Releasing Ourselves from Burden

Releasing Ourselves from Burden

What is it that has us feel like a burden in life? So many of us are afraid to be a burden to others – what taught us to have this fear? When did we learn that getting our own needs met is a burden...

Getting What We Want from Others

Getting What We Want from Others

Why do we rarely get what we want from others, even when we give our all? What if we could never count on getting what we wanted from others? How would that have us feel...

Beliefs that Limit Our Optimism

Beliefs that Limit Our Optimism

Why are some people able to see the cup ½ full instead of ½ empty? What allows them to be optimistic about the future even when there is little evidence of success in the moment? Read more to see how you measure up...

Trustworthy?

Trustworthy?

Who do we think is worthy of our trust? What is it that makes someone ‘trustworthy’ to us? What about the times that someone didn’t come through for us when we needed them to? Can someone be completely ‘trustworthy’ to us? Read more to find out...